How often do you think people change after they get married? In other words, do people show one side of themselves before they get married and then show their true selves after the honeymoon? For example, are men willing to do dishes and shower women with gifts before the wedding and then stop because their love is secure? How can couples be sure they are marrying the person they think they are? Are these behaviors different from culture to culture? Share your ideas.
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The behavior a man or a woman may adopt after getting married vary from person to person, culture to culture, couple to couple. However, neither men nor women can predict what behavior they will have when married, for living as a married person is a new experience. As soon as we've got married, the new situation brings about new behaviors that we can hardly explain.
ReplyDeleteMarriage changes people, not the opposite as a new experience for the couple. No onecan predict the behavior they might have after getting married.
ReplyDeleteI think that people may and have to change, nobody reacts as same in different situations either the couples, you have to adapted to the other person and be ready for that and if you think it is not your time to adapted then dont get married.
ReplyDeleteI thing that it's not that we show our false behavior. It's only that every time the life changes our lifes in ways that we usually don't know. When we meet our future wife (or husband), we fall in love and give gifts flowers and those stuff, but then this feeling changes because of several situations. I use to say that the fantasy ends and we enter to another level. Then, we get married and the presure of the new life starts and changes our behavior.
ReplyDeleteInteresting question. How can we be sure of anything? I think the person you decide to marry is a "gut decision" Hopefully, knowing yourself, you chose rightly, but there is no way to know how you will change after marriage and how married life will change you. I think the expectations are different from culture to culture, certainly.
ReplyDeleteI think is different from the culture to culture because after you get marrried you have to change the way you do for Ex. Both of you need work togethers like when you feel lonely you have to share with your husband or wife and when one person get sick another one need to takce care another one then i think if you guys can do it I think you guys can live with the peaceful life.
ReplyDeletesometimes, they changes after marriage.
ReplyDeleteyes, men are not willing to do dishes, but they shower women with gifts on her birthday or any special day.
Sometimes you are not sure but take changes to marriage.
The behaviours differ from culture to culture.
I love doing the dishes. Even before I got married, I liked doing them. I hope in the future I will wash and dry many more dishes. My love must be secure. No one knows what the future holds. At least, I know I'll still love washing dishes in the future.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion people show their belief in different way in a cluture.Therefore couples of married might believe one another.
ReplyDeleteAccording to a husband and wife, Thier lives is refers to thier kids lives.The most important thing is to love one another.
The different situation can change men's or women's behavior. Their behavior when dating time will be different after they get married because both of these situations can affect them. So, if after they get married they find something changed, I think it is normal and they can make their own decision to go through or divorce.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinon poeple who married might belief one another,because when they have kids,their will grow up in happy way.
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