Saturday, April 11, 2009

Parties: What time should I arrive?

Imagine that you are invited to a friend's house for a barbecue in your home country. What time would it be appropriate to arrive? A little early, right on time, or a little later? Would you do anything differently if it were a formal party at the house of your boss?

Every culture has its social rules for time, and knowing this when visiting a new culture can help smooth relations between you and others. Share your ideas on this topic.

Randall

37 comments:

Bruno/Ingrid said...

In Brazil, it's ok to arrive a little bit late at a party regardless of its formality. I myself don't like it when my guests arrive early right in the middle of all the preparation. Now as to close friends, they may arrive a little bit early to give you a helping hand.

szolive said...

I don’t like to be late for any appointment; I think who is right on time will be welcomed in china. For a barbecue if my close friends invited me, I like to arrive a little early to help them, if it is party at boss’ house, and then arrive on time, it is necessary. People can allow arriving a little later as special reason. Right on time, I like it.

Johk said...

Jo / Hong Kong

In my opinion, it is early to arrive at a party which is respected to your friend.

Bell said...

Staying in another country, I feel I should be more careful to deal with 'difference'. Sometimes, I'm confused that whether the difference is really resulted from different cultures, or merely from different personalities. Here in the country where I live, people seem to be very generous with time. On one occasion, I was invited to a party starting at 8 pm, but we couldn't start until 8:45 when all members turned up. What was more surprising to me was that it didn't seem to bother anyone. It must have been tolerated among them for long. That's not a single case I have experienced so far, though. In the matter of time, however, my single-minded opinion is " Be punctual." at any time. Arriving early or at least right on time will be strongly recommended. I don't think those who are not deeply conscious of time are likely to consider the feelings of others. That is a conduct of wasting other people's time. If you are invited to a party, come early, give assistance to a host and welcome other comers!

Anonymous said...

As the hostess, I like my guess to arrive within a half hour of the party time beginning, but am happy to have anyone arrive later. If I am serving dinner, please be on time. I held dinner for 14 for one individual who "ate with his family" before hand. I made him eat some soup! ;-} USA

Anonymous said...

Im Mexico, most people arrive a little bit late at a party. But if you are a very close friend, you usually must to arrive early to help the other people to prepare the food the drink.

Anonymous said...

Being on time is a polite way. I don't like people are late for appointment. For example, if I go to my friend house, i will be on time. It's good for both guests or hosts to arrange time.

My said...

In Vietnam,people usually arrive at parties just on time. However, it's OK to come earlier a little bit. Then they can sit and talk to other people when they're waiting for the party.

Anonymous said...

In China, pepple invited to a party always arrive on time or a litter bit later, but it could not pass half an hour.Unless you have special reasons and communicated with host , the host and the comers would think you are disrespectful .For a very close friend, it usually must to arrive early to help the other people to prepare the food and drink.As a host,they hope the guests come on time.

Roma said...

I'm in Vietnam,It depends on the party you are invited. People usually arrive a little late at a party that is celebrated at a restaurants. And with a party at home, people usually arrive early a little bit to give the hosts a hand

patigul said...

I am living northwest of China(Xinjinag).In my culture it depends on people.Some people like to come to party on time,some people they do not.In my opinion,it is better to come on time and i almost all the time do that.
On the other hand,party is a enjoyable activity for everyone.Thus it is a good habit to come on time and do not waist others' time.Moreover,everybody has to try to make the party successful.

Ali said...

im always late metting,party,dinner,work,i dont think it's a good habbit i know that im a little lazy and i dont know if im allowed to post a comment here cus im not that type of people who like to come early or on time no matter the occasion,but being here talking about this situation i would like to descrip this situation about my home country's people(lebanon)in lebanon people usually come on time!!no matter the occasion party,dinner whatever..but when it comes visiting a close friend they prefer to be there a little earlier than the sat time to help thier friend preparing their food table or helping them cooking some stuff but not too much early just a little bit

titi said...

i think i should arrive to partys from 6 7 pm to 3 am :d and we will have alots of fun . but it depends what kind of party are we doing if its a birthday party and its for lunch or something we can do from 1to 9 pm

Anonymous said...

In my country,Iran,is good to arraive a little late.If you arrive earlier you have loosen your proud.
But sometimes is depend on that you are far or close to guest.If it is your intimate friend or your close family ,it is good to go earlier in order to help for preparation.

lostheaven said...

hahaha,i guess everybody knows about filipino time!:Dhere in philippines when u settle an appointment everybody will be there 30 minutes later!:Dits something that runs in filipino nation:Dpeace

winetu said...

In Czech, it is decent to arrive at a party a little later so about ten or fifteen minutes.

Anonymous said...

It depends on the situation. i guees.4 example, if u have been invited to a formal party u need to be on time, but if it is just a regular party with ur m8s it wud be ok to arrive a little late.

Here in Peru( the country i live in) it's common ( almost a rule) to arrive a little late, otherwise u will interrupt party's previous preparations.

bebeyp said...

In my country, it's ok to arrive a little bite late at a wedding. But Most of time, I myself don't like to be late at any party or appointments. I think if there is a party at the house of my boss, I will arrive early for helping.

Faye Fung said...

I will arrive a bit earlier. For example, if the party begins at 8:00pm then I will arrive at 7:15pm-7:30pm. It is because this shows your respect to the function. Also, it is possible for me to help my friends to set up if necessary.
If i am invited to a formal party and my boss will be there, I will act a little bit differently. For instance, I will speak more softly and politely.

tatinha.w said...

Im my country, Brazil, the culture is arrive a little after, because people aren't ponctual. So in days of party people aren't worried about hour of their appointments , not even with what other people are thinking about.

Anonymous said...

In france, I think it's better to comme a little bit later at a friend's party, because if they are in the preparation of the party when we arrive, it's not correct.
At a boss party, I think it's better to comme just on time. Then he will understand that you are not late for your date.
Anyway... Only my idea!

daniel said...

In Bogota, people usually go to parties in the bars, for this parties they use informal dresses, the most comfortable to dance and have a good time with their friends. For birthday parties, people give a gift that is typically a piece of dress, in some occasions They use formal dresses. The essence of these parties is have a good time and enjoy the moment.

Liliana said...

In Peru, it’s ok to arrive one hour late at a friend’s party. I prefer to be punctual but if you arrive early you will be found that there are no people at the place.

ivan said...

I am Ivan I thought that sends to a spot to be possible but actually early, the late spot to is also may, because I thought that has the different advantage

Anonymous said...

I am Ivan, I thought that no matter is late or arrives early has not related, because has the respective advantage,So I thing is
ok.

ivan said...

I like a spot to sends rightly early,Because may help to suspend the tableware perhaps the preparation,So i like to be early go the party.

Makoto said...

Hi I'm from Japan.

Appropriate time you should arrive to a berbecue party is generally on time. But in the fact most of people get the kind of party pretty later than the set time. Sometimes just the organizer of the party is on time and nobody is there. That's kind of sad. If you wanna help him or her, you can get there earlier and ask them what help they need, then they would really appreciate your offer. In my advaise is just go on time, and you wouldn't be in any trouble.

thanks.

Anonymous said...

HI I'm from Colombia,
And the BBQ here is very common time to talk whit your friends.
the food It's very simple meal and beers, it's call "asado".
our cultural I don't not why, we are very late always, I mean if the time of BBQ it's 15:00 the most of people comming at 30 minutes later, in focus an hour later and it's normal.
So if you have a BBQ at Colombia don`t worry to comming early!!

lizaa said...

In my area are many restaraunts which can provide the party. For example, I will order food in Sushi Terra. They can prepare sushi for my party. Also. I will order food in Il Patio. They can prepare fantastic pizza with pasta and drinks for gathering. But this company can't provide some form of entertainment. All food and drinks would cost about 30000 rubles for 50 people.

Lara Green said...

Here in Russia it's polite to arrive earlier to help with preparing for the party. It comes to informal relationships. You better come right on time on your business parties or you can come a little later after the beginning.

Aprajita Guha said...

In India, most people arrive a little bit late at a parties. Which I don't like I always like to attend the parties on time. Now if my best friend or close friend invites me I like to arrive a little early to help them. If it is a party at my boss 'house I always arrive on time with a formal look and flower bouquet and chocklets

van nguyễn thị vân said...

i don't like waiting so i think who is right on time will be welcome in vietnam and i like to arrive a little early to help them, if it is party at my freind or boss'house.Right one time, i like it

Marcela said...

In Uruguay, my country, people usually come to a party or wedding a little bit late, but there are some that comes very late, till an hour late.
But if you are going to a job meeting it's better to be on time.

Anonymous said...

In my country.People usually come to the party a little bit late. But I think we should be on time if it's a meeting about your work.

Anonymous said...

You should be on time when you go to the party.I think the guess should be accredit the host.

huzzer mcm said...

Here in my country depends heavily on Whether it is on a formal or casual party, Whether it is formal generally I arrive on time, and if it's a casual party Generally not all arrive at the Agreed time.

Anonymous said...

Here in my country depends heavily on Whether it is on a formal or casual party, Whether it is formal generally I arrive on time, and if it's a casual party Generally not all arrive at the Agreed time.

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